I am a full-time Stay-at-Home-Mom (SAHM). I have days that I love what I do and days when I wish I had a job that would take me out of the house, and yes, away from the kids for a while. My days consist of multi-tasking and more multi-tasking. But would it be any easier to go to work during the day and then have to do everything else at night or on the weekends? Here’s a snap-shot of what a morning looked like when I needed to get out of the house:
Now, I don’t actually work outside of the house but I did have an 8:30 a.m. appointment last week about 20 minutes from where I live. This meant, that in addition to getting two kids ready for school and a toddler ready for the babysitter, I had to get myself dressed and put on some make-up–two tasks that to someone without young children, are pretty easy. But when you have lunches to pack, kids to dress, breakfast to make and a toddler who just wants to sit and nurse, trying to add taking care of myself (which involves actually being myself for a few minutes) it seems almost daunting.
Since I had to wear something other than yoga pants and a t-shirt to the appointment, I had to get up before the children. Waiting until they were awake, would have meant wasting precious seconds alone in which my unsupervised children might have gotten into any number of things that I would need to then clean up. After fixing breakfast for the kids, changing a poopy diaper, then dressing the kids, and trying to pack my first grader’s lunch, I threw on some make-up. Thank goodness I only needed to pull off looking human and not professional.
In order to get the girls to school on time and myself to my appointment on time, I had to leave the house looking like a hurricane had come in the front door and out the back door: There were dishes piled in the sink, pajamas left were they fell on the floor, and beds that were never made. I just couldn’t clean up and get ready at the same time. And later when I arrived back at home, I had to clean up the detritus left over from the morning routine, in addition to all of the things I had to do in the afternoon. It was a LOT and I’m not sure I could do that every day or if I would eventually develop a system that would somehow make things easier, that didn’t involve staying up incredibly late to do it all the night before.
Working Parents, how do you do it? Do you have a time and energy saving system to make your life run smoothly or is it a scramble of endless multi-tasking like it was for me?
Stay Tuned for Stay-at-Home-Mom’s morning next week!
P.S. I do have a husband and he does help…some. But he has to get himself ready and out the door too so there’s only so much he can do.