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Self Care to Help You in Your Fifth Trimester

I recently discovered the term (and accompanying book) “fifth trimester” to describe the transition of returning to work after having a baby. While the fourth trimester, or “lying in” period, is the time you’re able to bond with the baby and focus on healing yourself, the fifth trimester is all about returning to relative normalcy.

Every trimester brings with it its own challenges, but the fifth is arguably the most challenging. The physical exhaustion that a newborn brings along with the return to a faster pace can take a huge toll. However, this is nothing compared to the emotional challenges of leaving one’s baby behind, oftentimes with a stranger.

I just returned from maternity leave, myself, this past week. While it’s my third child, it doesn’t get any easier. One of the only things that helps ease the pain – as with many of the challenges of each of having … Read More

One and Done: One Child Families

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More and more of our friends these days are having only one child. It’s interesting to hear them talk about their experience, read blogs on the subject and to hear parents of two or more children weigh in (whether or not it is their place to do so). Having three myself, I can tell you that life is crazy. In fact, life was crazy with two and then along came Cooper. Sometimes I feel like I am so busy caring for my children that I don’t have time to enjoy them and I sometimes I secretly envy “the One and Done” crowd.

You may have heard parents of more than one child talk about how they wanted their first child to have a playmate. The “playmate phase” of childhood does not begin, of course, until both children are older than toddlers. Toddlers meeting a newborn sibling for the first … Read More

The Newborn Chronicles: Week Four

Cooper’s one month birthday was rapidly approaching as we started the fourth week of life with him.  Our family was really enjoying getting to know its newest member.  His sisters continued to want to hold him several times a day and to help care for him.  Our middle child (almost three years old) liked to use the breast pump and offered to nurse him for me.  Our older daughter would rush to his side whenever he cried and try to poke his pacifier in his mouth–he looked like a baby bird frantically waiting open-mouthed for a worm.

Everyday we would see a little more of Cooper’s personality. He continued to act as if wakefulness, if not accompanied by eating, was highly overrated.  He was not fond of riding in the car and merely being strapped in his car-seat would cause him to protest.  I would joke “Do you suffer from … Read More

The Newborn Chronicles: Week Three

The third week meant my parents’ departure and my first shot at being a stay-at-home mother of three (with no help!). I would have to get my oldest ready for preschool, get her on the bus, drag all three kids to a couple of appointments, not to mention cooking cleaning and breaking up the occasional fight.  Actually, my cooking burden had been greatly lessened thanks to the many meals brought over by friends.

By the middle of his third week, we began to notice that Cooper was beginning to get a little crabby around dinnertime.  Many babies, who get through the busiest part of the day just fine–sleeping through the chaos of noisy siblings, trips to the grocery store or doctor’s office and even the roar of the vacuum cleaner, suddenly begin to protest in the only way they know how when things begin to quiet down–by screaming at the … Read More

Taking a Ride on the Fuss Bus

Last night my husband and I spent at the better part of two hours trying to soothe our screaming newborn son, Cooper. Usually nursing does the trick for any little bout of fussiness but this time he would start to nurse, seem to calm down for a few moments–but inevitably his little face would scrunch up, his mouth would open and…he would start to scream.

Cooper is our third child, so while after almost three years we’re a bit rusty, we do have experience with newborns.  And what did this night of terror remind us of?  Dealing with our colicky first-born.  Colic is defined as inconsolable crying and fussiness for no apparent reason.  It has to occur at least three hours a day, for three days a week, at least three weeks out of a month.   This was only one night–will we be doing it again tonight? Fingers crossed that … Read More