This is the subject line and email message from one or more of the many spam emails that I have to delete in the system every morning. But even though it is a spam email, the first time I read it, I thought, “Wow. That was nice to be asked how I was”. The subject line starts with a term of endearment, making you receptive to what is in the email. The message is a simple question as to how I am doing, and especially on difficult mornings I would like someone to ask me that and listen. As far as spam goes, I think that is pretty clever. I think that the selfless façade of the email can bring people in, even though they know that it is spam, and whoever sent it just wants to put a virus on their computer or get personal information. I would never click on any link in an email like that, or reply. But wouldn’t it be nice if someone you love just came up to you, smiled, and said “Hello Honey, How are you?”
As parents, I think it is normal to feel overworked, overloaded, and underappreciated. There is so much selfless work to be done as a parent. The “Thank You” from children often does not come until they have left the nest and they have children of their own. It is essential that we refuel, that we take time to take care of ourselves, and to have others who listen when we need them to. For women especially, talking to others about parenting, relationships, and other aspects of life allows us the release of feelings that we need to in order to process our thoughts. Having someone receptive to that need to talk is very important. So if you are feeling overwhelmed, overworked, or underappreciated, connect with other parents in your area, talk to your family, talk to your friends. If no one does say, “Hello Honey, How are you?” then go to someone and ask if they can listen. It will do a world of good.
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