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When a new baby arrives, it’s darn near impossible to maintain a sense of normalcy in your household (and kind of naive if you think you can – been there, done that!). This is an even bigger challenge when you’ve got other children in the mix. So, I thought I’d share a two-part series of posts as we grow (very) close to adding a third to our brood.

This week, I’m chatting about ways for you, as a parent, to stay connected to your older kids (while still giving your little one the attention he or she needs).

Involve your older child if they’re a helper, but don’t push it if they’re not. Who knows your child better than you? Our almost-2-year-old daughter is extremely independent, recently running to grab a couple of diapers from her room before we left the house (I would have totally forgotten them). She puts away her laundry for us and begs to put everyone else’s away, as well. So, needless to say, asking her to get something that I need for the baby may continue the “I’m helping, I’m involved” feelings.

Our son is a helper, but to an extent. He has a couple of chores that he’s super proud to do for us, but I remember that after awhile the “get sister’s onesie” requests wore thin. So, this time around he may actually be relieved that he has a little sister to help with these requests! Either way, we’ll try not to overdo it and keep an eye out for the inevitable sighs when we do.

Try to keep a routine schedule but with some looseness. My mom has mentioned several times that, “Well, you’ll have Harper home with you a lot…” while I’m on leave, and I’m kind of thinking, “Well, not really.” We want to maintain some normalcy – and that includes sending her to my mother-in-law on most weekdays and, of course, sending our son to kindergarten. Keeping this structure is not only good for the baby and I, but for our older two, as well.

However, some of this scheduled structure is going to loosen, again, for the good of the whole family. Maybe Mommy (or Daddy) won’t be making lunches everyday and our son gets to have the cafeteria experience (he’s excited about the prospect of this). Maybe Daddy will take the kids to Barnes and Noble or out to eat (huge treats) while I stay home with the baby. Maybe we’ll take some family members up on their offers to have sleepovers more.

There are some things that are hugely important to our family, though, particularly our son. We still enjoy our PBS Kids Family Nights every Friday and will continue to do so. As the holidays (and our daughter’s birthday) get closer, we’ll find ways to celebrate our traditions simply but specially. So, a routine but with some flexibility thrown in is our goal; let’s hope we can achieve it!

Keep communication open. This can be a tough one to maintain since you may feel fried or be going through your own hormonal emotions, yourself, but I don’t mean that you have to discuss the transition CONSTANTLY and over every single behavior issue. Actually, that can make things worse, I’ve found.

Rather, before the baby arrives, have mini conversations here and there about how your child is feeling. This time around, our son says he’s SUPER excited (even if it’s not a boy, ha ha) and has formed more of a connection by talking to my belly or feeling for kicks. I’ve made sure to remind him of the changes in a matter-of-fact, neither-good-nor-bad kind of way. He’s been through them before, so it’s more of a refresher of what’s to come.

For our younger, less aware daughter, though, this communication has been more vague and we’re much looser in our conversations. Simple books and dollies help (even though she’s not really a nurturing doll mama type), but saying that she has a new baby friend coming (and not trying to dethrone her “baby” title – we interchange big girl and baby girl equally) that she can be a big helper with seems to be sinking in.

So, balance in communication is the goal. We found that over-discussing things with our son when his first sister came made things worse, but obviously ignoring issues or not being willing to take a moment to snuggle and chat about an issue might make your child feel a bit abandoned.


Do SIMPLE activities together. Don’t let Mom Guilt (or Parenting Guilt – my husband’s just as guilt-driven as I am) seep in while you’re in the midst of a huge transition, yourself! Paring back on the kid activities (in our case, we purposefully avoided getting our son involved with anything since kindergarten itself has been such a huge change and didn’t put our daughter into Kindermusik even though we’ve been considering it) is TOTALLY understandable.

Instead, I’m planning to take into consideration some priorities first but say “yes” more often. This means I’ll consider a) how I’m feeling, b) how baby’s doing (along with his/her schedule), and c) how much it’ll throw off the routine. If it’s a school night and we still have baths to give and it’s getting later by the minute and the baby’s having a rough time, nope. If it’s a Friday night or baths aren’t needed (we do them every other night unless they’ve gotten super dirty or sweaty) and the baby’s chill, regardless of how tired I may be or how messy the activity, I need to remember to say “yes” and remember that messes aren’t forever.

Simple activities can range from a dinner out or a trip to a library for story time, or, heck, just doing a super simple craft project together, coloring, playing Candyland, or watching an educational show together. These things recharge our children’s “Mom still has time for me!” batteries and reminds me to connect more.

Be genuinely involved when you can. Going hand-in-hand with the last tip is to be mindful about the time spent together. When the kids are home and the baby’s napping or being worn, the phone will be put aside and we’ll make a concerted effort to chat about things that are important to our littles. After all, every stage that we’re observing and experiencing in our kiddos – the early school age, the learning-new-words-and-talents-everyday phase, and, of course, the newborn stage – are fleeting. They’re all important and sweet and challenging and wonderful phases in their own ways, and before we know it they won’t WANT us as involved.

As fried as we sometimes get (especially thanks to sleep deprivation!), the kids crave that connection, and it’s our job to provide it, even by simply sitting with them and being there.

Don’t beat yourself up. Christmas is going to be simpler this year, as is my daughter’s birthday. We won’t be able to attend every awesome school function. We’ll welcome less visitors (unless they’re actually offering help of some kind) to visit with the new baby. Sometimes I WILL say “not today, buddy” when our son requests yet again to paint that darn bird feeder we’ve been avoiding painting for 5 months. The list goes on, and it’s all enough to really get down on myself about.

But, like I mentioned, this stage isn’t forever. One day, we’ll make Pinterest-perfect Christmas cookies together. (Maybe.) One day, we WILL sign up our daughter for Kindermusik and our son up for whatever sport or activity he has his mind set to try. One day, we’ll get to every single school function. And, yes, one day we WILL paint that bird feeder (heck, maybe the day the baby’s born some kind soul will break it open for our son to splatter paint all over – and I’ll be grateful because I know how much it meant to him). It just might not be today…and that’s okay.

To say nothing of the housecleaning…
Allow them transition time/leniency. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither are lifelong connections. Just think about when you and your significant other first started dating. If you were forced to spend 24/7 together from the very beginning, you might have felt overwhelmed, frustrated, and not as “into” them as you did by simply dating and maintaining “me time.” Well, we bring a new forever friend home for our littles and expect them to be 100% okay with it.

Sometimes they are, but sometimes it comes out in poor behavior and choices or downright grumpiness. It may hurt to think that our littles don’t immediately take to their sibling, but remember that their relationship (like most family relationships) will be a marathon and a bumpy start doesn’t necessarily bode badly for the future. Allow these feelings to happen. Give it time.

Just remember to love on your first (and second, and third…) babies while you’re doing your best job loving on your newborn. Your love is the interconnecting thread that has created this silly, adorable lot in the first place, and is what holds it all together. That love is all it takes to heal any hurts or welcome a new little squish.   

 


So, are any of you expecting a second, third, fourth (etc) child? Have you gone through it before? If so, we’d all love to hear your ideas and tips on making the transition easier and staying connected with your older child(ren) in the comments!


There’s something about a first birthday party. All the huge milestones that a baby goes through in their first 12 months are wonders to behold and celebrate. We often do this by going big – a theme, a smash cake just for them (imagine giving a 10-year-old her own cake and ooohing and aahhhing over how she goes about eating – or decimating – it), inviting TONS of people, lots of pictures (some professional ones included, too), and just an overall humongously over-the-top bash.


Speaking of bashes, I’m not “bashing” the first birthday party. Compared to some, ours have been subdued; compared to others, ours were over-the-top. I guess it all depends on who you are and what you feel is too much. I’m down for the celebration. In retrospect, however, we’ve learned from one child to the next what works best for us (and other friends and family). Maybe you don’t want to invite all your local – and not so local – friends (even the ones without kids or any understanding of the importance of a first celebration). Maybe just your closest friends and family would appreciate the significance. And, while you choose to adhere to tradition, there’s a piece of you that thinks making one amazing cake for a baby to either bat at apprehensively or destroy is a tad silly.

Something else that I find on the “well, that’s kinda sad” list is the fact that a second birthday can be a bit of a downer after that initial shindig. I get that we can’t (and shouldn’t) go overboard for every single birthday, but c’mon. There’s still a lot of crazy awesome development that has been going on during that second year, and that transition from babyhood is something to celebrate.

So, with our daughter turning 2 next month, shortly after the birth of our third child, it would be easy to do something super small…like, a family dinner with the kiddos and “hey, I put real clothes on and took a shower” small. And while it won’t be “first birthday epic”, I’d like to share some ideas I’ve floated around in my head about how to keep her second party special, even if it will be far simpler.

 


– Keep a theme in mind. I’ve said it before with other birthday party tips, but a theme just turns a regular ol’ get-together into a celebration. Whether it’s a favorite character or book, or even as simple as colors that remind you of your little one, it helps provide a focus to the time spent together and transport guests a bit (even when the party’s in your living room).

I was torn between a pink/coral/gold theme and a Daniel Tiger one, but my husband helped solidify it; we only have so much time that she’s interested in certain things (but could do a color theme anytime), so Daniel it is. We’ll just be using up some red plates and cutlery, grabbing some yellow accents and simple wall hanging to go along, and grouping our Daniel plush characters together. See? Themes don’t have to be complicated.  


– Think outside the box. The cool thing about a second party is that you can pretty much do what you want. There aren’t really “traditions” that you need to feel obligated to stick to and your child is still at an age where they don’t really care as long as it’s fun (no arguments about which superhero theme is picked). So, go ahead and try for a brunch or tea party. Make it a barbecue or picnic. Pick a super random theme. (“Well, she’s into dinosaurs and princesses, so it’s a Princess Dinosaur party.”) The pressure’s off, so have fun with it.
– Set the mood – simply. Pick only a few decorations but group them together to up the impact. For example, just stick some twinkle lights to one wall with a simple sign or cute colored tassels behind them, grab some plates and napkins that coordinate, and maybe put out a toy or something else that can work as a centerpiece (I use that word VERY loosely here – this could even just be a cake).

A simple playlist or even a Pandora or Spotify channel that your child enjoys having dance parties to can liven things up simply. And one thing we don’t ever skip? My husband’s tradition of making an annual video for each child to show how much they’ve grown from one year to the next. So, we put those on a laptop or a loop on the TV so others can enjoy his hard work (seriously, the editing, let alone the organization of all those files…). Plus, the kids LOVE seeing themselves and ask to watch their videos during the year, which is more than worth the trouble.

– Don’t overthink it. If there will be kids present, they don’t always need a grab bag of goodies to take home. (How often do we get them only to toss half the stuff, anyway?) Home-printed coloring sheets and some crayons and some time to simply free-play together can be just as much fun as detailed games or activities that took you hours to plan and make. And just a couple of cute little Dollar Tree buckets with candy in each can soothe the sweet tooth cravings (and the kids will actually eat/bring home LESS sugar that way). 

– If you WANT to go overboard with something, pick one thing. I’ve learned that it’s best to pare back unless it’s something that you’re super passionate about. If menu planning is your fave, go nuts on the food. If you want to have everyone (grown-ups included) play games, go ahead. If you go all out on decorations, keep the food simple. Just be sure to keep yourself in check; I’ve had those moments when I’m in the depths of creating and cooking and painting (yes…I made a cityscape picture taking backdrop for our son’s superhero birthday party last summer…talk about overboard) when I ask myself why I do this to myself. I’m no Martha, nor should I try to be. Whew, liberating.

And, all in all, remember what’s most important: celebrating how special and awesome this little bundle of adorableness is and what a truly fun age they’re experiencing!     

What about you guys? Are your family’s birthday celebrations generally the same – low-key, over-the-top, or somewhere in between? Or does it depend on the year and what’s going on? Leave a comment below!


Not everyone is lucky enough to be able to stay home to experience a “fourth trimester” or “lying in” after they welcome a newborn. Whether you live in a state that doesn’t require companies to allot for an extended maternity leave, work in a field that doesn’t allow much flexibility in this area, or simply prefer going back to work as soon as possible, I understand the conundrum that many moms face in this area one way or another. Heck, if I could take a year or more off per child, I would; but, as always, these decisions are extremely personal, taking into account the emotional, financial, and physical well-being of all involved (and, in our case, we just can’t do it financially).


So, today I’m sharing what my plans are and how I plan on spending it – and if your plans aren’t the same, that’s MORE than fine. This is what’s working for our family this time around and, while I’ve experienced a mixture of support, assumptions, and disgruntlement from work, I’m at peace with it.

I should be able to take an extended leave of 12 weeks. It’ll be financially tight for awhile (particularly given the holidays – another reason to add to the pros of getting Christmas shopping done early!), but since it’s been added to my contract as an option (depleting any remaining banked sick/personal/vacation time first, then becoming unpaid, but still) and since I’ll be having a C-section, I appreciate any extra time to not only recuperate but to experience and meet this little one.

While I don’t think I’m “built” for a true lying-in (which might or might not resemble drinking warm bone broth and losing all track of time while staying in bed snuggling the baby; I have an amazing husband, but he’ll have to return to work far sooner than I, and we DO have two other littles to keep an eye on when not at school or my mother-in-law’s during the day), the concept behind it is awesome and there are some lessons to be drawn from it.

I don’t think I experienced a fourth trimester with my first two; I hadn’t heard about the concept until a month or so after my second was born (I was actually asked to work on an article about it while I was trying to kickstart a side writing career, and here I was doing the OPPOSITE of what these sage experts were suggesting), and I found myself nodding in agreement.

Here are some ways that I’m hoping to take better advantage of maternity leave and truly experience a fourth trimester, and that might help others (whether on leave or not!) to be a little more intentional with their families…



Put the focus on people – namely, the baby and the rest of my immediate family. I’ve noticed lately that my stress level has improved when I allow myself to be in the moment with our kiddos and my husband (and not allow myself to get overwhelmed by outside factors that simply won’t matter in a few days or weeks or months). Paying attention to the specialness of the people that surround me and take time to appreciate them verbally or with a hug during the day helps EVERYONE.

I know baby snuggles don’t solve the world’s problems (especially things like postpartum depression), but focusing on finding out who this third little person we’ll be helping along through life is the main goal of this time.

Along with this, giving attention to the other kiddos (not to mention my husband) are just as important, too, to hopefully avoid the subconscious jealousy issues that pop up as the family finds its new groove.

Make self care a priority. Are moms notoriously awful at this or what?! I know I am. During this pregnancy, a common theme has been, “I don’t even remember I’m expecting half the time.” Totally true. I’ve overdone it; I haven’t rested enough, I haven’t stop and reminded myself to drink more water, I haven’t gotten up slowly or at the right angle (oops, ouch), and so on. Dang.

So, however I have to break that mental wall down, I will do my best to get my 3 meals a day (or 5 snack-like meals, most likely) and drink enough water. When possible, I’ll lay down when the baby does (seriously!). I’ll request that a friend or my sister stops by so that I can grab a quick shower. The house will still stand if it’s a mess, but I need to feel my best to care for these people the best.

Accept the offers of help. Sometimes an offer of help is just a sweet gesture. There are a few folks, though, who TRULY want to help. Like, they’re aching to make your life easier, and not just to get some extra time with the baby. It’s because they happen to love you and your family.

I was raised with the, “I’ll just do it myself” gene, but particularly post-C-section, I know that I’ve been known to vacuum or bend for laundry or do dishes WAY early…and it’s not fun after the fact. So, I might just make a brief list of the simple day-to-day chores that I normally work on in case someone wants to throw in a load of laundry or put away some dishes when they come over. I know every little bit will help and this might help me to actually relax and not focus on the stuff that’s not getting done. 😉 (I send myself to my tip #2.) And, again, if it doesn’t get done from time to time, it’s not the end of the world.

Ignore the guilt for the time being. Again, this is my own hang-up – guilt that the house isn’t clean like it should be, guilt that I said “no” to going to that event, guilt that I’m relying on people for help (or requesting that we skip some visits), guilt that we’re missing out on favorite family holiday events, guilt that we’re eating more pizza (or ANYTHING not homemade) than we should…etc.

As much as it’s impossible to erase the guilt, I won’t allow it to run my decision-making or make me question the time I’m spending with the little one (and his or her siblings…at home…doing nothing).

Don’t focus on what I “should” be doing. This one goes hand-in-hand with the guilt factor.

The fact that this “fourth trimester” coincides with the holidays is a tad challenging. I SHOULD be wrapping…or baking pies…or making homemade candles to go with gifts (why do I genuinely want to do this? I need to let it go) or a million other things.

I hope to use, instead, the motto: “I SHOULD BE HERE, IN THIS MOMENT, WITH THESE PEOPLE, AND ENJOY IT.” Even saying it to myself (or aloud) to bring myself back down to earth might help. And, y’know what? Even those of us who aren’t on maternity leave can learn a little lesson from it.

Oh, and as far as the holidays? As long as the kids’ gifts are set, the tree is up (any additional decor is icing on the cake and totally not needed), we’re good – and it doesn’t matter if we’re eating frozen waffles on Christmas morning. Who (aside from myself) will notice?

Nourishment but through easy, simple food. Sure, there will be pizza. There will be canned soup and sandwich nights. (I mean, it’s all organic at our house, but still…) There will be breakfast for dinner. Whatever. But, overall, I will strive to eat the things that are best for baby – and myself.

I’ve had a hard time finding teas that actually have stuff that a) I enjoy the taste of and b) the baby could have. (And don’t get me started but this time green tea was off limits! WHUH?!) So, those things that I avoided diligently will be back but on full display. Green tea. Salad with feta or bleu cheese (soft cheeses, I’ve missed you!!!). Wraps with nitrate-free cold cuts. Fresh fruit bowls and smoothies (watermelon, woohoo). The rare, post nursing glass of wine!!! (I hadn’t been drinking this because I was still nursing my second when we got pregnant, so it’s been A LONG TIME!) The list goes on, but seriously. Simple but good.

Listen to the baby and my body. Overall, this self-awareness and pulling myself out of that fog that we sometimes fall into post-baby to focus on both of us is key.

I’m really good at pressing on and doing too much normally…or pregnant. Luckily, a baby (and, to be honest, an incision!) is really good at letting you know when you need to drop what you’re doing, right? This is a great reminder in the importance of being present in all parts of your life and truly reminding yourself of what’s important.

So, have you experienced a lying-in or fourth trimester? Do you have any regrets over how you spent your maternity leave? I’d love to hear your experiences (or hopes, if you’re still expecting) in the comments!

 

I’ve recently mentioned trying to get on top of, well, LIFE as we stare down a fast-approaching due date for Baby #3. I don’t think you could really call it nesting; more like simply attempting to gain control over things.

So, what does this have to do with Christmas? Well, the scheduled C-section “due date” is October 24th. I’ve already bought the pieces that will make our kiddos’ pirate costumes for Halloween (both are going as pirates – my son says his sister will be a “baby buccaneer”). My husband and I are scheduling a date to focus on our second-born’s birthday (a week and a half before Thanksgiving, less than a month after the baby comes). And Thanksgiving itself will be an “I’m a guest with a baby strapped to my chest” sort of thing rather than having to put the whole shebang on myself. (Yay!)

That leaves the main event – Christmas. As I’m sure we’ve all thought EVERY YEAR, whether pregnant or overwhelmed or not, “This year, I’m going to get ahead. I’m going to finish my shopping and actually enjoy the season with my family!” Well, for us, this year’s no different…only, I’m actually forcing myself to start.


Here are some of the reasons that I’ve already hit the “buy” button on some Christmas gifts, and hope to finish either pre-baby or pre-Thanksgiving, at the latest…

 


Giving myself a 4th trimester. I feel like, in some ways, I’ve neglected this pregnancy (and baby) for a bunch of non-intentional-but-still-guilt-riddled reasons. So, I’m hoping to allow some time to actually connect with the baby, even amid the usual hectic craziness of life. Shopping (among doing other things) in advance will hopefully help my mind ease enough that, yes, we’re on top of one aspect of the holiday in order to better focus on my own healing and, most importantly, getting to know this special new little one.

 

We’re simplifying our purchases this year. Since we’re purging and generally cutting back on our overall reliance on “too much stuff”, this overlaps into our holiday gift-giving – and hopefully receiving. With presents, we’re relying on the “quality over quantity” credo and requesting the same from loved ones. So, a lot of what we’re asking for and looking for involve experiences (often in the realm of gift certificates, memberships, subscriptions, etc) or an item that we know the person truly uses and loves.

So, hopefully this also simplifies the shopping process, too.

 

TRAFFIC is STRESSFUL. “It’s the mooooost wonderful tiiiiime of the yeeeeaaarrr…” I am far from a Scrooge, but seriously…the lack of attention to people’s driving at Christmastime terrifies me. When I hear the cheery holiday songs juxtaposed against the background of honks, swerves, rude gestures, and general lack of care for humankind…well, it’s just sad.

So, I hit up the mall with my son after school this week and it was dead. Pleasantly unbusy with just normal post-4pm traffic. Sure, I miss the Christmas decorations and music, but that’s the price you pay for peace.

Oh, and most of our shopping will, in fact, be online, too, so I’m just trying to pick up those few, specific items now while I can, then doing the rest from the comfort of my own sweatpants, whether pre-baby or post.

 

I don’t want “shopping” to be included in my “traditions” list. There are some things that I truly hope we’re able to get to, as a family, to maintain some of our previous traditions. These are things that really mean a lot to several members of the family. Picking out a real Christmas tree (hopefully). Going to look at decorated houses. Making cookies. But a stress on shopping and gift-giving? Not a tradition; more of an obligation (an, at times, fun one…but an obligation nonetheless).

 

Weighing the stress vs. cost saving. Speaking of tradition, I used to hit up the Black Friday sales with my sister pretty hard and would accomplish maybe 90% of our gift-giving in one fell swoop. It was a way for us to kick off the holiday season together, usually with hot cocoa and carol-singing while waiting in line (we were those people, yep). Fast forward and this year I’ve decided that those amazing deals you (usually) have to wait until post-November for just aren’t worth the added stress. Even the online hunting and cost-comparing is too much.

As far as this all goes, God bless Google Docs! This year, I’ve kept a running list for every member of the family when I’ve realized, “oh, he could use *fill in the blank*” or anytime our son mentioned a particular toy more than a handful of times, on the list it went. So, while there may be a thing or two that he specifically requests from Santa that we may have to order closer to the holiday, I think we’ve got a good head-start on buying things everyone will actually enjoy.
Going with the flow of commercialism rather than fighting upstream. This is actually totally a joke (since very few people seem actually HAPPY about the fact that Christmas decorations being displayed with the Back-to-School stuff), and while I tend to reuse as much as humanly possible for wrapping, I’ve found that I’ll need to stock up on a handful of new Christmas supplies (namely, gift bags; the old ones are falling apart!). So, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em. I’ll be making a stop sooner rather than later so that we’re all prepped and ready to go.

So, am I the only one? Has anyone else officially started (or even finished!) their holiday shopping yet? Do you think I’m totally nuts? (Hey, that’s okay if you do.) What are you going to do to make things easier on yourself this holiday season? I’d love to hear in the comments!

Leaks. Argh! When you pick up your little one and feel something wet on his clothes (especially if it’s started happening on a regular basis), your mind goes into “Why is this happening? How do I fix this??” mode. It’s not a “cloth only” issue when it comes to diapering, but it’s one that we hear about from time to time with cloth.

Our girl, Laura, addressed the topic on a recent #ThirstiesLive and we thought we’d pass along her great info with our readers here.

Before troubleshooting your leaks, it helps to figure out if you have a properly working cloth diaper. This means that it’s a good idea to rule out the following:

– Delaminated TPU. When the laminated material delaminates, you’ll notice that it looks and feels different – kind of bumpy and like it’s been superheated.

– Repelling. If liquid isn’t being absorbed but rather “sits” on top of it, there’s a possibility that your cloth diapers are repelling. Here are some possible causes and ways to fix them:
              – Grease – Try a hand wash with blue Dawn.
              – Detergent build-up – Try a hot wash with RLR Laundry Treatment.
              – Ammonia build-up – Give diapers a soak in Rockin Green Funk Rock Ammonia Bouncer followed by a hot wash.

Now, if these solutions don’t seem to stop the leaking, there are some other possibilities. Here are some more common causes of leaks that aren’t related to wash issues…

Diaper Leak Reason #1: Bad Fit

  • Symptom #1: Leaking is seen and felt around legs but the diaper is not saturated, and the diaper may even have leg gaps you can visually notice.
  • Symptom #2: Your baby is experiencing leaking out of the back of the diaper.
  • Symptom #3: Your baby is experiencing leaking out of the front of the diaper.
  • Fix: Make sure the diaper is fit to your child’s body properly. This would mean that the leg elastics (or inner gusset) is located comfortably in the groin crease and not further down the leg, and that the rise is no more than an inch below baby’s belly button. Adjust snaps and sizing accordingly to reach the optimal fit.

Diaper Leak Reason #2: Changing Too Infrequently

  • Symptom: The diaper is saturated and leaks after going more than 2 hours between changes.
  • Fix: It’s a bummer to say it, but try changing more frequently. Also try adding doublers or an extra insert if needing to go longer between changes (like during nap time).

Diaper Leak Reason #3: Not Enough Absorbency

  • Symptom: If the diaper is saturated and leaks after less than 2 hours of wear, you may need more absorbency. It could mean that your child is a heavy wetter.
  • Fix: Simply add a doubler or inserts.

Diaper Leak Reason #4: Absorbency in the Wrong Place

  • Symptom: If experiencing leaking despite a good fit, but the diaper isn’t saturated, you may need some additional absorbency in another area of the diaper.
  • Fix: Identify and boost the wetness zone with a doubler or inserts by:
    • Observing where the leaks are coming out and where the diaper is the wettest
    • Considering child’s age and if they are flooding the diaper

Hopefully, these solutions will help with any possible leaking problems you’ve been experiencing. Be sure to check out Thirsties’ variety of inserts (both stay-dry duo inserts and hemp inserts) and organic cotton doublers if you need help fixing an absorbency issue.

 

 

So, raise your hand if you’ve had any issues with your cloth diapers leaking! Did you find a solution here? We’d love to hear your experiences (and any different solutions!) in the comments below.

And, as always, don’t forget that Thirsties goes live every Friday at 1:00pm MST on Facebook and 1:45 MST on Instagram! The topics vary and are always helpful and interesting, and you’ll love meeting super fun Laura.